A message from Tim
This is the most painful experience I have ever had in my life as it would be for any parent in this situation. Making this even more difficult was the closeness between Tyler and I which transcended a normal father and son relationship.
Tyler was a source of strength for me through the difficult times in my life and my love for Tyler was clearly evident to anyone who knew me.
The amount of time and love we shared together was multiplied by Tyler's participation in minor sports and my decision to encourage him through coaching. Although Tyler played on quite a few teams I did not coach, overall I did coach him on 1 baseball team, 3 Roller Hockey teams, and 6 Hockey teams. We won many tournaments and 4 championships. We also shared many defeats. In the competitive minor hockey world the season can run from August until April + summer hockey. We lived in rural Caledon and would travel an average of one half hour each way for practices and up to two hours for regular season games. We played and practiced 4-6 times per week.
It was during these long drives and time spent together in the dressing room, where I would give a motivational talk before, and usually after each and every game that we really bonded. From speaking with Tyler's friends his commitment to health, responsibility, and the enjoyment of life resembled my own in so many ways.
Just yesterday I was being told of his regimen of taking vitamins, exercising and eating healthy being implemented into all of his friends lives. I also heard of some other stories and pranks which I cannot share in this email which really led me to understand how much the same we really were.
When I was notified of Tyler's passing by telephone, (I was in Italy, I went numb and wept more in the next 36 hours than I have in the past 15 years), I was and still am devastated. It is difficult for me to imagine life without Tyler as the effort and passion that I put into building companies is greatly motivated by Tyler and my other children.
Although this may seem a little strange, (or may not), I have been having conversations with Tyler since his death. He has told me that he loves me and he is so sorry for any pain and suffering he has caused to anyone due to this tragic accident.
He has also asked me to forgive him and for me to ask all others that he has hurt for forgiveness. The true meaning of forgiveness to return to the way we were beFORe the pain was caused. Tyler learned the true meaning of forgiveness at Landmark Education and reminded me of this when I first forgave him, but he saw me giving up.
He said, "Dad, you must go back to the way you were beFORe this tragedy and turn it into even more power to keep on doing the things you have been doing in your life".
He continues to remind me of this and I have promised him I will. I hope that anyone who reads this will understand that we need to choose our responses to painful occurrences in our lives. We can choose to give up and have our energy and life taken away, or we can choose to allow pain and tragedy to motivate us, to compel us to use that force to make the most for ourselves in a way that will benefit others, and enrich their lives and our own.
Tyler I love you, and even though I feel you around me at all times, and continue to speak with you, I really want to play one more game of golf, have one more celebration, and most importantly one more big hug and "I love you". And I know you do too.
Son, I am so proud of you. Thank you for giving 20 unbelievable years.
A message from Sandra
A message from Chanel
Tyler, you were the most amazing brother anyone could EVER EVER
ask for, you had the most beautiful smile in the entire world
and i promise i will continue to shine it on. I miss you more
than anyone can imagine and i will make you so proud of me.
I love you forever and ever
A message from Shaya
Tyler, forever will i remember the type of brother you were.
You were always there for me if I needed a big brother in my life.
Together, your wisdom, your knowledge, and your wild sense of
humour has made me who I am.
You were the greatest brother in the entire world,
and i will always love you.
You have blessed my life and I will never forget that.
I miss you so much, you will always be with me,
and my thoughts will always be with you.
I love you so much.
A message from Randy
Tyler, you truly are a brother anyone would want to have,
I wish we had more time together,
we finally had gotten close over this past while,
you have been a huge source of inspiration and guidane to me,
even though im suuppose to be the big brother here,
I hope you know how much I look up to you for your amzing attributes
and how you have touched evey single person
you have come across in your short lifetime.
Even though 95% of our time together was spent laughing and goofing off,
you taught me one of the most important things in life
that i will forever hold on to and use as one of my most important tools
in my journey of life and success...
I will miss you and love you always bro.
A message from Moe
When I close my eyes all I see is your smile.
You were always so full of life. So honest, so real, so humble,
so giving, so grounded so wise and so sweet.
You were an incredible human being. I was lucky and blessed to
have shared 3 years with you.
Our lives will never be the same without you .
You will be missed deeply.
I love you . May god rest your soul.
Obituary: Tyler Mulcahy
It is with sadness that we announce the passing of Tyler Mulcahy on July 3rd, 2008. Beautiful son of Tim and Sandy. Grandson of Peggy and Stan. Brother of Chanel, Shaya, and Randy. Tyler was born in Toronto on April 25th, 1988 and grew up in Richmond Hill, Caledon and Toronto. Tyler was a gifted athlete who played many sports including hockey, basketball and golf. Tyler graduated from Upper Canada College in 2006 and attended University of San Diego for one year. In the past year Tyler worked for his father producing and editing a series of sales training CD's 'Sales Superstar '. Tyler planned on retur ning to university to continue his education in the fall. Tyler was a loving son, grandson, brother and friend and was loved by many. Tyler 's early passing has left much devastation to family and friends. Friends may call on Wednesday July 9, 2008 (closed casket) and Thursday July 10, 2008 (open casket) from 3-5 p.m. and 7-9 p.m. at the MORLEY BEDFORD FUNERAL HOME (159 Eglinton Ave. W. 2 lights west of Yonge St. 416-4898733). A funeral ser vice will take place Friday July 11, 2008 at GRACE CHURCH ON THE HILL (300 Lonsdale Rd. 416488-7884) at 1 p.m. Interment to follow at Mount Pleasant Cemetery. If desired, flowers may be sent or a donation may be made to the charity of your choice. Information, condolences and comments @ www.tylermulcahy.com